Probably should have done a post on Mother's Day too. Oh well, this blog covers family law issues in the sport world. The sports I cover have mostly male player, so, Father's Day gets more attention. Which is unusual.
Good knows we talk enough about fathers here. Especially the ones who don't pay their child support. I don't care how many kids you have -- pay your child support.
I don't care how difficult the moms are, take every second of your court ordered visitation. There is NO excuse for not spending time with your kids. Fine, being a professional athletes doesn't exactly lend itself to every other weekend visits. Do what you can. You don't have to go that party in Miami. You don't have to go to that other sports's championship game(s). Spend time with your kids. Or hey, bring your kids. They would love it.
Two tweets (god I hate that word, someone give me an alternative PLEASE) gave some really good advice this Father's Day.
Wanna say Happy Fathers Day to all the good dads out there. Wanna change the world? Starts w/the man in the home. Raise your kids!
"The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother." - Theodore Hesbur
On that last, you don't have to be married to the Mom or living with her. But you damn well better treat her with respect -- no matter how she acts. And you better not bad mouth her to your kids, or let your kids see by any of your actions how you truly feel about her. This is the mother of your children. Without her, you would have a reason to celebrate Father's Day. Got it? And I don't want to hear about that she doesn't do the same. Two wrongs don't make a right. Be the better person. Set a good example for your kids. That is the best gift you can get for Father's Day, knowing your kids will grow up to be good, respectful productive members of society.
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Monday, February 28, 2011
The Offseason
Given their respective schedules, there is no one time that all 4 major sports are off. However, right now, the NFL is off, baseball really hasn't started and the NHL is beginning to wind down (do the NBA and NHL have incredibly long post season play or what?). The offseaon would be a good time for divorces, custody matters, whatever issue to move forward. You don't have to worry about games and practices.
Non sports folks don't get an offseason when things can be scheduled. Nor do they get to ask the court for special consideration. The court sets the hearing dates. The parties just have to tell their employer they need the time off for court. Then there is meeting with the attorney for discovery, trial strategy, etc. Depositions need to be scheduled. Attorneys like their weekends too, so we tend not to schedule around our client's schedules. All in all, a court matter means a lot of time missed from work.
What is the solution? Don't get a divorce? Don't fight for custody of your kids? Hardly. If you must take your family law matter to court, do it. Accept the timing and do your best. It is all one can ever do.
Non sports folks don't get an offseason when things can be scheduled. Nor do they get to ask the court for special consideration. The court sets the hearing dates. The parties just have to tell their employer they need the time off for court. Then there is meeting with the attorney for discovery, trial strategy, etc. Depositions need to be scheduled. Attorneys like their weekends too, so we tend not to schedule around our client's schedules. All in all, a court matter means a lot of time missed from work.
What is the solution? Don't get a divorce? Don't fight for custody of your kids? Hardly. If you must take your family law matter to court, do it. Accept the timing and do your best. It is all one can ever do.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Divorce and the Pro Athlete
One of the cool things about writing this blog is that reading sports websites now constitutes research. Yep, reading SI, PFT, ESPN, and all those other sites is now "work." As I am sitting here tonight with a gin and tonic in hand, doing research for future posts, I ran across a rather scary statistic.
The divorce rate for pro athletes ranges from 60 - 80%.
That is all major sports: NFL, NHL, NBA and MLB.
The divorce rate for the average population is 50%. This means if those numbers are accurate, athletes divorce at a significantly higher rate than the average public.
Even more frightening is that there is anecdotal evidence that most pro athletes divorce within a year or two of retiring (really retiring for good, no come backs). That means when the crowds and the adulation go away, so does the marriage.
There are many reasons for the demise of a marriage. I would like to think that athletes divorce for the same reasons the rest of the population does. Reasons like, incompatibility, domestic violence, money, affairs, just not wanting to be married anymore. But that number tells me more is at work here when it comes to a pro athlete's marriage ending.
Whatever the reason though, pro athlete or not, the goal of the divorce remains the same. Preparing two people to go forward into their new unmarried lives.
The divorce rate for pro athletes ranges from 60 - 80%.
That is all major sports: NFL, NHL, NBA and MLB.
The divorce rate for the average population is 50%. This means if those numbers are accurate, athletes divorce at a significantly higher rate than the average public.
Even more frightening is that there is anecdotal evidence that most pro athletes divorce within a year or two of retiring (really retiring for good, no come backs). That means when the crowds and the adulation go away, so does the marriage.
There are many reasons for the demise of a marriage. I would like to think that athletes divorce for the same reasons the rest of the population does. Reasons like, incompatibility, domestic violence, money, affairs, just not wanting to be married anymore. But that number tells me more is at work here when it comes to a pro athlete's marriage ending.
Whatever the reason though, pro athlete or not, the goal of the divorce remains the same. Preparing two people to go forward into their new unmarried lives.
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