Monday, May 7, 2012

Tell It to the Judge

Oh this is so not a good idea.    T.O. is going on Dr. Phil to give his side of allegations that he owes $20K in child support.   Let's leave aside the fact that Dr. Phil is not exactly a nice guy who is understanding about people's shortcomings.    Let's focus on why this is a bad, bad, bad idea for T.O.

First of all, either he owes the child support or he doesn't.    There's not a lot of sides to this story.    There's a court order for the support and either he paid what he was supposed to pay or he did not.   If he did pay, his lawyer should be filing a Motion to Dismiss.   If he did not, what the heck is there to explain?

Which leads to second of all, you don't do your explaining on TV.   You do your explaining in court.   A TV audience is not a judge.   A TV audience cannot excuse you from your court order duty to pay child support.   Any explanation you give on tv is not going to impress a judge.

Third of all, what any explanation will do is give an explanation you are stuck with.   If you try to change your story later, the other party just has to produce a tape of the Dr. Phil show and say "That's not what you said before."    It's called prior statements.   Doesn't matter if you are under oath.

TV, Facebook, Twitter, etc. are not the places to plead your case.   It does more harm than good.   Once you are involved in court -- or think you might wind up in court -- shut up.   Keep your thoughts between you and your attorney.  

Saturday, May 5, 2012

Derby and DV

It's Kentucky Derby Day.   The fastest two minutes in sports.   The Kentucky Oaks was run yesterday.   Every sports blog has posts on the Derby and/or the Oaks.   DivorceField is not going to be left out thanks to jockey Robby Albarado.

Albarado was arrested yesterday morning on domestic violence charges.  Even the "Sport of Kings" is not immune from domestic violence.   Allegedly, Albarado got into a fight with his live-in girlfriend when she used his cell phone to call her family to leave him.    She went to the hospital the next day and was found to have a shoulder separation, dislocated collarbone and possible torn ligaments.   That's a little more than a tussle over the phone if her injuries were caused by the fight.

People argue.   People who should not be together get into arguments while breaking up.   It happens.   There are lots of emotions involved in a relationship.    What is never acceptable is violence.   Don't hit.  Don't grab.  Don't smack.  Don't touch in anyway.    If you feel yourself losing control in an argument walk away.  

Not all domestic violence incidents involve a loss of control.   Those are somehow worse.  But there is no such thing as a "minor" domestic violence incident.  Any violence in a relationship is not acceptable.  

Albarado found this out the hard way.   Not only is he facing criminal charges, but Horse Racing acted quickly. He is suspended indefnitely effective immediately.   Yes, he is innocent until proven guilty in a court of law.   But being a jockey is a privilege.    Horse Racing can suspend him merely for the arrest.   This policy is to be commended.   Albarado won't be riding in the Oaks or the Derby.   Immediate consequences for unacceptable behavior may convince those who commit DV that they shouldn't do it.